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Re: The trans debate

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What is a TERF? Genuine question. Do you consider yourself a TERF?
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Re: The trans debate

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Currywurst and Chips wrote: Wed Mar 13, 2024 4:06 pm
Mick McQuaid wrote: Wed Mar 13, 2024 3:38 pm CEB, i suppose fundamentally i just dont actually care whether someone is 'actually male'. I just don't presume i knw better than someone's own sense of self
Don’t you see how this can be an issue, can be abused by bad faith actors or children easily influenced?

I hesitate to call you a f*cking dolt
As an example...You might not agree with MM's point but outside of this thread I'm not sure saying 'I dont presume i know better than someones own sense of self' wouldn't seem controversial. But...name calling to close down 'debate'
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Re: The trans debate

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The acronym stands for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, and refers specifically to radical feminists who wish to exclude male people who claim to be women, from their feminist organising, and more broadly from spaces where sex matters.

Colloquially, it is used as a synonym for “transphobe” directed at anyone who criticises trans activists, and after much throwing around of it by trans activists, many people critical of trans activism have semi ironically adopted it.

So no, I’m not a TERF because I’m not a radical feminist, though I have used it as ironic short hand.

You are a terf in the same way that I am (though less strident) - the difference with you is that you haven’t put your moderate views to a trans person and seen how they’re received. Looking forward to when you do!
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:16 am What is a TERF? Genuine question. Do you consider yourself a TERF?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender-critical_feminism
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Re: The trans debate

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And sissy porn...?
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:18 am
Currywurst and Chips wrote: Wed Mar 13, 2024 4:06 pm
Mick McQuaid wrote: Wed Mar 13, 2024 3:38 pm CEB, i suppose fundamentally i just dont actually care whether someone is 'actually male'. I just don't presume i knw better than someone's own sense of self
Don’t you see how this can be an issue, can be abused by bad faith actors or children easily influenced?

I hesitate to call you a f*cking dolt
As an example...You might not agree with MM's point but outside of this thread I'm not sure saying 'I dont presume i know better than someones own sense of self' wouldn't seem controversial. But...name calling to close down 'debate'
1: Your sense of self isn’t the determining factor of whether one is male or female.

2: a male person claiming that his sense of self is that of a female person is actually claiming to know something about both himself, AND about female people, AND about all male people, that he couldn’t possibly know; that he shares something innate with all female people that he does not share with male people. It is perfectly reasonable to say of a deluded male “your sense of self is something you have the right to experience, but you don’t have the right to be believed that your sense of self recategorises you as female”
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Re: The trans debate

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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:22 am The acronym stands for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, and refers specifically to radical feminists who wish to exclude male people who claim to be women, from their feminist organising, and more broadly from spaces where sex matters.

Colloquially, it is used as a synonym for “transphobe” directed at anyone who criticises trans activists, and after much throwing around of it by trans activists, many people critical of trans activism have semi ironically adopted it.

So no, I’m not a TERF because I’m not a radical feminist, though I have used it as ironic short hand.

You are a terf in the same way that I am (though less strident) - the difference with you is that you haven’t put your moderate views to a trans person and seen how they’re received. Looking forward to when you do!
Probably am a moderate TERF then.

What happened when you put it to a trans person?
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am And sissy porn...?

Do you want to know?
I’m happy to tell you if you’d like to know, but just want to make sure.
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:22 am The acronym stands for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, and refers specifically to radical feminists who wish to exclude male people who claim to be women, from their feminist organising, and more broadly from spaces where sex matters.

Colloquially, it is used as a synonym for “transphobe” directed at anyone who criticises trans activists, and after much throwing around of it by trans activists, many people critical of trans activism have semi ironically adopted it.

So no, I’m not a TERF because I’m not a radical feminist, though I have used it as ironic short hand.

You are a terf in the same way that I am (though less strident) - the difference with you is that you haven’t put your moderate views to a trans person and seen how they’re received. Looking forward to when you do!
Probably am a moderate TERF then.

What happened when you put it to a trans person?
Some of the views you’ve expressed here would see you accused of wanting trans people to die
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am And sissy porn...?
Nice try.
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Re: The trans debate

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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:18 am
Currywurst and Chips wrote: Wed Mar 13, 2024 4:06 pm

Don’t you see how this can be an issue, can be abused by bad faith actors or children easily influenced?

I hesitate to call you a f*cking dolt
As an example...You might not agree with MM's point but outside of this thread I'm not sure saying 'I dont presume i know better than someones own sense of self' wouldn't seem controversial. But...name calling to close down 'debate'
1: Your sense of self isn’t the determining factor of whether one is male or female.

2: a male person claiming that his sense of self is that of a female person is actually claiming to know something about both himself, AND about female people, AND about all male people, that he couldn’t possibly know; that he shares something innate with all female people that he does not share with male people. It is perfectly reasonable to say of a deluded male “your sense of self is something you have the right to experience, but you don’t have the right to be believed that your sense of self recategorises you as female”
You misunderstand...I'm not rejecting the point. I'm making a point that the way things are discussed in this thread aren't conducive to a sensible debate. Which is why I wonder your sincerity at being open for your mind to be changed.

Even though you are all the way in on this topic, surely you can understand that your style of posting isn't going to achieve any of the debate you say you strive for?
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Re: The trans debate

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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:27 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:22 am The acronym stands for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, and refers specifically to radical feminists who wish to exclude male people who claim to be women, from their feminist organising, and more broadly from spaces where sex matters.

Colloquially, it is used as a synonym for “transphobe” directed at anyone who criticises trans activists, and after much throwing around of it by trans activists, many people critical of trans activism have semi ironically adopted it.

So no, I’m not a TERF because I’m not a radical feminist, though I have used it as ironic short hand.

You are a terf in the same way that I am (though less strident) - the difference with you is that you haven’t put your moderate views to a trans person and seen how they’re received. Looking forward to when you do!
Probably am a moderate TERF then.

What happened when you put it to a trans person?
Some of the views you’ve expressed here would see you accused of wanting trans people to die
And your response?
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:32 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:18 am
As an example...You might not agree with MM's point but outside of this thread I'm not sure saying 'I dont presume i know better than someones own sense of self' wouldn't seem controversial. But...name calling to close down 'debate'
1: Your sense of self isn’t the determining factor of whether one is male or female.

2: a male person claiming that his sense of self is that of a female person is actually claiming to know something about both himself, AND about female people, AND about all male people, that he couldn’t possibly know; that he shares something innate with all female people that he does not share with male people. It is perfectly reasonable to say of a deluded male “your sense of self is something you have the right to experience, but you don’t have the right to be believed that your sense of self recategorises you as female”
You misunderstand...I'm not rejecting the point. I'm making a point that the way things are discussed in this thread aren't conducive to a sensible debate. Which is why I wonder your sincerity at being open for your mind to be changed.

Even though you are all the way in on this topic, surely you can understand that your style of posting isn't going to achieve any of the debate you say you strive for?

I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:33 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:27 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am

Probably am a moderate TERF then.

What happened when you put it to a trans person?
Some of the views you’ve expressed here would see you accused of wanting trans people to die
And your response?

Well, with the young woman from my university course who accused me of wanting her to die after she saw me post on Facebook that male people shouldn’t be able to compete in the female category in the Olympics, I said “of course I don’t want you to die, I just believe that sex matters in some contexts and sport is one of them”, after which she blocked me, as is her right. She was crowd funding for a double mastectomy at the age of 22 last I heard
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One of my strongest opinions on this is I'd like to prevent children being brainwashed with unscientific nonsense and coming to harm by having brutal surgery and strange drug treatments.
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Re: The trans debate

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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:35 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:32 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:25 am

1: Your sense of self isn’t the determining factor of whether one is male or female.

2: a male person claiming that his sense of self is that of a female person is actually claiming to know something about both himself, AND about female people, AND about all male people, that he couldn’t possibly know; that he shares something innate with all female people that he does not share with male people. It is perfectly reasonable to say of a deluded male “your sense of self is something you have the right to experience, but you don’t have the right to be believed that your sense of self recategorises you as female”
You misunderstand...I'm not rejecting the point. I'm making a point that the way things are discussed in this thread aren't conducive to a sensible debate. Which is why I wonder your sincerity at being open for your mind to be changed.

Even though you are all the way in on this topic, surely you can understand that your style of posting isn't going to achieve any of the debate you say you strive for?

I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
Im in no doubt you are comfortable. But again, missing the point. Let me ask a question...

What is it you are trying to get out of this? Debate? Changing peoples minds? Putting people right on a few things that they were unsure of? Other?
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Long slender neck wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:44 am One of my strongest opinions on this is to prevent children coming to harm by having brutal surgery and strange drug treatments.
You want Trans genocide!
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Children don’t have surgery, they’ve been put on a hormonal pathway that almost always leads to surgery (even when evidence shows dysphoria in childhood usually resolves itself in puberty)
Important distinction
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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:39 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:33 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:27 am

Some of the views you’ve expressed here would see you accused of wanting trans people to die
And your response?

Well, with the young woman from my university course who accused me of wanting her to die after she saw me post on Facebook that male people shouldn’t be able to compete in the female category in the Olympics, I said “of course I don’t want you to die, I just believe that sex matters in some contexts and sport is one of them”, after which she blocked me, as is her right. She was crowd funding for a double mastectomy at the age of 22 last I heard
As if Facebook existed when you were at uni.
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Unless your mum runs Mermaids
In 2017, Green presented a Ted Talk discussing the journey to get gender-affirming surgery for her eldest child at age 16 in Thailand
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Re: The trans debate

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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:47 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:35 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:32 am
You misunderstand...I'm not rejecting the point. I'm making a point that the way things are discussed in this thread aren't conducive to a sensible debate. Which is why I wonder your sincerity at being open for your mind to be changed.

Even though you are all the way in on this topic, surely you can understand that your style of posting isn't going to achieve any of the debate you say you strive for?

I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
Im in no doubt you are comfortable. But again, missing the point. Let me ask a question...

What is it you are trying to get out of this? Debate? Changing peoples minds? Putting people right on a few things that they were unsure of? Other?
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:47 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:35 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:32 am
You misunderstand...I'm not rejecting the point. I'm making a point that the way things are discussed in this thread aren't conducive to a sensible debate. Which is why I wonder your sincerity at being open for your mind to be changed.

Even though you are all the way in on this topic, surely you can understand that your style of posting isn't going to achieve any of the debate you say you strive for?

I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
Im in no doubt you are comfortable. But again, missing the point. Let me ask a question...

What is it you are trying to get out of this? Debate? Changing peoples minds? Putting people right on a few things that they were unsure of? Other?

I’m posting informed, clear thinking on various aspects of the trans debate for anyone interested to hear them. You may have missed it, but in amongst the arguing (where usually my biggest bugbear is lack of engagement with the substance of my points - you’re as guilty as anyone there), there’s actually been several boarders here (you included) who have found yourselves a bit more informed, and a bit more understanding of my position.

I genuinely do not give a f*** whether people like my posts or not, so I’m just posting my honest takes with clear language. If it aides your understanding, great, if you agree with me, great, if you want to ask me anything you’re very welcome to and I’ll answer you honestly and respectfully.
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Long slender neck wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:50 am Unless your mum runs Mermaids
In 2017, Green presented a Ted Talk discussing the journey to get gender-affirming surgery for her eldest child at age 16 in Thailand

True. The video where she laughs about how, because of the puberty blockers, the surgeon didn’t have much penis tissue to work with when making her son a vagina is genuinely chilling.
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Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:49 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:39 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:33 am

And your response?

Well, with the young woman from my university course who accused me of wanting her to die after she saw me post on Facebook that male people shouldn’t be able to compete in the female category in the Olympics, I said “of course I don’t want you to die, I just believe that sex matters in some contexts and sport is one of them”, after which she blocked me, as is her right. She was crowd funding for a double mastectomy at the age of 22 last I heard
As if Facebook existed when you were at uni.

I did an art degree at 37 :D
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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:52 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:47 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:35 am


I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
Im in no doubt you are comfortable. But again, missing the point. Let me ask a question...

What is it you are trying to get out of this? Debate? Changing peoples minds? Putting people right on a few things that they were unsure of? Other?
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:47 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:35 am


I am 100% comfortable with the posts I make on this thread, and believe that I’ve treated Max’yyy and MM’s responses to me with more credibility and respect than they warrant.
Im in no doubt you are comfortable. But again, missing the point. Let me ask a question...

What is it you are trying to get out of this? Debate? Changing peoples minds? Putting people right on a few things that they were unsure of? Other?

I’m posting informed, clear thinking on various aspects of the trans debate for anyone interested to hear them. You may have missed it, but in amongst the arguing (where usually my biggest bugbear is lack of engagement with the substance of my points - you’re as guilty as anyone there), there’s actually been several boarders here (you included) who have found yourselves a bit more informed, and a bit more understanding of my position.

I genuinely do not give a f*** whether people like my posts or not, so I’m just posting my honest takes with clear language. If it aides your understanding, great, if you agree with me, great, if you want to ask me anything you’re very welcome to and I’ll answer you honestly and respectfully.
So, and not being sarcastic, it is actually to put people right on a few things they are unsure of, correct? (not saying that's a bad thing but just trying to understand what you want out of this)
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CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:54 am
Rich Tea Wellin wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:49 am
CEB wrote: Thu Mar 14, 2024 10:39 am


Well, with the young woman from my university course who accused me of wanting her to die after she saw me post on Facebook that male people shouldn’t be able to compete in the female category in the Olympics, I said “of course I don’t want you to die, I just believe that sex matters in some contexts and sport is one of them”, after which she blocked me, as is her right. She was crowd funding for a double mastectomy at the age of 22 last I heard
As if Facebook existed when you were at uni.

I did an art degree at 37 :D
As if FB was around when you were 37.

(but in all sincerity, well f*cking done)
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