Dunners wrote: ↑Fri Mar 11, 2022 9:52 am
I'm really struggling to get my head around this reaction.
- Paul Terry is rumoured to have had an affair with a teammate’s wife. Nasty thing to do if true, but is happening every second of the day all over the world.
- Said teammate is reported to have been depressed around that time, possibly due to an injury (in part at least).
- Teammate was clearly in a distressed state, and tragically took his own life. This is an extreme and rare thing to do, and would not have been envisaged.
- Paul Terry gambled, and possibly in a dodgy way (I have no idea about this, but then it's not exactly unheard of in the game either).
Therefore, based on all the above, he is a scum bag, and his mere presence at Orient risks ruining our reputation as a family club. And some people are even so incensed by the whole thing that they’re not going to go to games anymore.
Have I got this right?
No you have not. She wasn't his wife.
Also, and even if the "affair" did happen, who is anyone to judge what goes on between 2 out of 3 people.
Let's imagine that person A is in a relationship with person B, and then person B allegedly "cheats" on that relationship with person C.
What possible scenarios might be in play here?
1) It's not true and the "cheating" didn't occur
2) It is true but it's because person A was cruel and vicious towards person B and drove them into the arms of person C
3) It is true but it's because person A was so wrapped up in themselves that they neglected person B and drove them into the arms of person C
4) It is true but it's because person A thought they may be gay and so neglected person B and drove them into the arms of person C
5) It is true but it's because person C was predatory and had plotted to steal person B away from person A at their lowest ebb
6) It is true but it's because person B was a sexaholic and jumped on the first person they saw who happened to be person C
7) Persons B and C were drunk one night and did something they regretted and didn't do it again
....and about a million other possibilities -
none of which are any of our business
And none of us know which it was, yet everyone's sitting there in a froth of righteous indignation pronouncing great moral turpitude on a stranger to make themselves feel better. Great, well done you, we all know you're upstanding and saintly.